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Chapter One: Before You Start

Lasting Impact 4 years ago 3 min read

Chapter One: Before You Start

This book is not about courtship, relationships, or dating. It is about marriage, but we sense the need to share some vital lessons with you before you consider the marathon journey of marriage.

The truth of the matter is that in any venture you don’t prepare for, there is the likelihood that you are going to go off along the line.

If there is any evil we have seen under the sun as a married couple and lay counselors for that matter, it is the shock of the fact that young people prepare for the wedding and do no preparation for marriage life itself.

When it happens that way, all the pressure and struggle we put into the wedding falls into the ditch when the marriage finally starts.

A Sad Story

Let’s call her Afi (not her true name). She was so obsessed with her wedding and paid no attention to the marriage (maybe). The wedding was indeed fantastic. The ring was top-notch, if you see her gown nobody will advise you to step aside. The reception was splendid. It was their day and indeed it was. Sadly, it was not up to one year when the marriage fell on a rock.

Chapter One: Before You Start

It’s not our joy to rejoice in people’s pain and trivialize their sadness, but the truth of the matter is that when you don’t take some foundational principles seriously, there is a great tendency that things will not go well.

Is it not a bother that with all our advancements in technology, and knowledge, the marriage of yesteryears has proven to be more durable than that of our time?

We would like to share with you some biblical keys to consider in preparing for marriage in this chapter. To save your marriage before it starts do the following:

Discover your assignment and start working on it. Please listen closely, the sustenance of your marriage will largely be dependent on the purpose, career, or calling that you are both pursuing.

When you discover your career or purpose path early enough, it informs you on whom to marry and who not to marry.

This is crucial to marital success. Marriage is more of purpose fulfillment than sexual enjoyment.

The next preparation you need to do is to develop character consciously. This is by far the most important advice you will ever receive from us.

Almost every page of this book will be communicating one thing and that is: MARRIAGE IS CHARACTER PERSONIFIED.

This truth is easily received by those who are married while young people will largely contest it.

You will need a lot of patience, tolerance, love, and forgiveness in your marriage. We will consider this in greater detail in the subsequent chapters.

Chapter One: Before You Start

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Get knowledge about how marriage works. We can tell you after almost 8 years of staying together as husband and wife that there is a way to make a marriage work.

Reading good information and listening to healthy counsel is one of the surest ways to succeed in the work of marriage.

Another way to save it before you start is to WAIT. This is a great counsel that can save you from a lot of headaches and heartaches.

Don’t rush into marriage because sister A or brother B is doing so. Marriage is not a competition, take your time.

Realizing that others’ marriages cannot stop yours from happening is enough fuel to keep you going as a single youth. There is always a lot to say but let’s stop here for now.

In the next chapter, you are going to read about the shock that Pastor Seth had many years ago as a student at the KNUST.

Click the link below and read chapter two

Read:Chapter Two-What a Shock